2015 Be good. Be strong. Shirts

 The 2015 "Be good. Be strong." shirts are here, but only until February 9!  You have to use the online shop to place your order (link below) and the shirts will be delivered to you in mid-February!  There will not be a second round this year so don't delay!!

Proceeds from the sale of the shirts will go to fund innovative cancer research in Boston.  The research that has been funded through this program is making a huge impact in the future of cancer for all types of cancer.

There are 2 options for shirts:  100% cotton and cool-dry performance material.  Both options come in youth sizes.  The cotton shirts are $20 and the technical fabric shirts are $25.

Last year, we almost filled a map of the US with people from all over the country helping to support this important cause.  Since we began last week, we've begun to fill the map again and are off to a great start....with Massachusetts and Tennessee the most represented state so far.  Please let us know where you are from so we can fill your state, too!  And feel free to share with your friends and family. 

On Marathon Monday, we ask that everyone wear their shirt and send photos.  It was so motivational to see so many people sharing the message that our family has truly come to embrace.

To order:
http://www.booster.com/begoodbestrong

For more about the meaning of the shirts:
http://begoodbestrong.blogspot.com/2014/01/spread-message-be-good-be-strong.html

Every day, I fight

For those of you who are ESPN fans and/or many who spend any time on social media, you may be aware of the death of Stuart Scott on Sunday.  He was a long-time ESPN anchor, reporter, story teller, sports fan who also as became a role model of perseverance, strength, family, and humility throughout 7 years of dealing with cancer.

As I sat down with a cup of coffee to check out Sunday Morning on CBS and SportsCenter on ESPN, the first thing I tuned into was a tribute to Stuart Scott, knowing immediately that he had died.  The depth and nature of the disease was evident back in August when he accepted the Jimmy V award at the ESPYs.  Through the words in his speech, although not implicitly stated, it was clear that cancer was taking a big toll on his life.

My sister, Mary, had said she hated when people used the phrase "lost the fight or battle" when talking about cancer because it clearly states that there's a winner and loser, and that if ultimately cancer is the cause for loss of life, that you've been beaten.  However, Mr. Scott beautifully said in his speech something very similar:  "When you die, it does not mean you lose to cancer. You beat cancer by how you live, why you live and in the manner in which you live."  Those words exemplify the living example I've seen through my family and friends:  the fight and laughter and will and strength no matter what turns the situation may take.

It was tough to watch the tributes from his colleagues and athletes.  Emotional.  Reflective.  Honorable.   I didn’t know Stuart Scott.  Had never met him.  But seeing that hurt and hearing that sorrow they shared was tough.  It always brings my emotions straight to the surface, knowing that so many were experiencing such a difficult loss and were beginning the process of grieving their dad,  brother, son, friend, or co-worker.  Bearing witness to the disbelief that there is someone who was so special to their lives that they will never see again was heartbreaking.  As Stuart Scott was someone well known through his television job, it was certainly a more public tribute than the experience of most, but what we witnessed on the screen was people truly grieving, and seeing that very real emotion and that raw hurt can make you mourn someone you have never met.

This day and every day, about 1,500 people in our country lose their lives due to cancer.  1,500 families today are saying goodbye.  1,500 families are grieving.  1,500 groups of friends and neighbors are trying to figure out how to support their friends and manage their own sorrow.  It’s a big, big number.  

Stuart Scott wore a shirt that said: Every Day, I Fight.  Every Day.  We can’t give up.  Every day, we have to fight.  For our family and friends and for those we’ve never met because whether you know them or not, there are millions of people in the thick of it and they need to know that every day, someone is fighting.

Be good. Be strong.

Please consider helping the DFMC team fight by making a gift to the Dana-Farber Cancer Institute:  www.runDFMC.org/2015/jennies

500+ Cancer Fighting Friends: DFMC 2015

In addition to just the privilege of participating with the Dana-Farber Marathon Challenge going into my 7^th year, I have had the grand opportunity to be more involved with the team over the past 3 years as a member of the volunteer board, and for the past 2 years, serving as vice-chair.  This opportunity allows me to delve deeper into the organization and really come to know the people and the rewards the stem from this team each year.

A little bit about the team….the Dana-Farber Marathon Challenge team is comprised of over 500 members  from all of the United States and many foreign countries.  Our goal this year is $5.2 million, all of which benefits the Claudia Adams Barr Program in Innovative Cancer Research at the Dana-Farber Cancer Institute in Boston.  This will be the 26^th running of the DFMC team in the Boston Marathon, and over the years the team has raised over $65 million dollars for research, which has translated into some groundbreaking discoveries.  There are a number of treatments on the market today that grew from the Barr Program research, funded by DFMC.  There is a direct connection and that is what draws me back to this team again and again.

 

One of the best parts of being involved with the board is having the chance to attend the First Timers meeting, which for the 2015 season was last night.  It’s an informal gathering of teammates who are joining DFMC for the first time this year, and the energy among the 75+ runners in attendance was electric.  In just brief conversations, I met a man running in honor of his wife who spent much of this year being treated at DFCI for colon cancer.  I sat next to 2 women who are themselves survivors and are running their first marathon and want to give back to an organization that saved their lives.  I spoke with a young adult who is running in honor of her best friend and college roommate who was diagnosed with leukemia and recently announced she was cancer free.  And others whose connection may not be a close but is still there.  Everyone has a connection.  Everyone is running for a personal reason.  Everyone has someone they know touched by cancer.

For me, since about 10 years ago, cancer has been entirely too close.  The web of connections is vast.  Two sisters.  One brother.  My dad.  Both grandmothers.  Three aunts.  Second cousins.  And what feels like a ridiculous amount for friends given that I am only in my early 40s.  And friends of friends.  And children of friends.  And parents of friends.  And DFMC teammates.  It just shouldn’t be the case.

So, as you know, I run.  It’s what I can do.  I’ve logged thousands of miles over the past few years, but not nearly as many miles as dollars have been contributed to help fund important cancer research.  The running is just a means to a much bigger end.  I run for Dana-Farber because everyone single cent goes directly into the laboratory and into the hands of some of the most capable and innovative researchers in this country.   So, I also ask of you to give as generously as you can knowing that there are so many other needs out there to be filled especially during this holiday time.  The dollars matter.  Every single one of them.

To make an online gift:

www.runDFMC.org/2015/jennies

Be good. Be strong.

Take 7...lucky #7

 Happy almost Thanksgiving!  It’s the beginning of a hectic time of year, with winter knocking at doors across the country and snow literally knocking straight through some doors in upstate New York!  I’ll certainly be grateful we don’t have 60” of snow on the ground next week as we sit down to celebrate (knock on wood).  Before the chaos really kicks in, I’m writing to ask for your support of a cause that is incredibly important to me and to my family..

Thanksgiving is the time of year when I begin the training season for the Boston Marathon, and this year will mark my seventh year with the Dana-Farber Marathon Challenge team, and I'm more determined than ever before.   As in years past, this year has not been one without more cancer diagnoses among friends and loss of too many lives to this disease. There have been advances and new effective treatments, but the work is far from complete. I am honored to again be a member of this team, and I run alongside so many others whose lives have also been impacted by cancer.  Many of my teammates are survivors and some even current patients themselves.  Most run for family members or friends.  Others because curing cancer is their job and this is just another way to help advance the cause.  Whatever the motivation, the end goal is the same.  We run to provide incredibly gifted scientists the opportunity to make amazing advances in diverse areas of cancer research.

My primary motivation for running is my family.  I run in memory of my three siblings, Molly, Mary,  And I run for the rest of my family who have been  forever altered as a result.  Every day I miss Molly, Mary and John.  Every single day there’s a moment when I would have laughed with John about the ridiculous notion that we’d have a dog or commiserated with Molly about raising a teenager or joked with Mary about the ridiculous reality TV “personality” filling up the news.  I expected to have these moments with them: the summers at the beach, the Christmas holidays, the graduations and text messages and email jokes.  While that void cannot be filled, it is lessened by knowing that I work to change the future of cancer in their memories.

and John, who as young adults lost their lives to cancer.

The funds raised by the DFMC team support research at the Dana-Farber Cancer Institute, one of the top cancer centers in the county.  Every cent of your gift – a full 100 percent- goes directly to funding research through the Claudia Barr Program in Innovative Basic Cancer Research at Dana-Farber, widely recognized as one of the most successful programs of its kind.  Based on a rigorous and highly selective process, the Barr Program funds the brightest scientists making basic research discoveries that are transforming cancer treatment.  This incredible work is resulting in improved survival rates and quality of life for thousands of patients everywhere, and your support will go directly to continue this mission.

My personal goal this year is $1,000 per mile of a marathon ($26,200) and I would be incredibly grateful for your support.  Making an online gift is quick, safe and easy.  You can visit my webpage at http://www.runDFMC.org/2015/jennies to make a contribution.  If you would prefer, you can also send a check payable to the Dana-Farber Marathon Challenge to me at: Jennie Sheridan, 23 Glendale Rd., Marblehead, MA  01945.  In all honestly, I am able to run again for the 7^th year because of the generosity of so many of you over the past years.  I not only run for Molly, Mary, and John but for all of our family and friends who have been diagnosed with cancer.  Please let me know

if there is someone for whom you would like me to run.  I wear the names of our family and friends on my shirt on the road from Hopkinton to Boston each year, and while sadly the list continues to grow, they are the wind at my back and carry me across the miles.

Each of the past six years, the backing that has been shown for my participation on the DFMC team has just remarkable, and I send my sincerest gratitude for your kindness and generosity to help me reach my goal. It’s difficult to write to you year after year, but the goal remains the same:  find a cure for cancer.  I continue to be thankful for this opportunity to be a part of this group that is leading the charge.  Your support means a great deal to our entire family. 

Happy Thanksgiving to you and your family!

Be good. Be strong.

With gratitude,

Jennie

Some days are diamonds

It seems like months already that the 2014 Boston Marathon took place.  After months of training and preparation, it comes and goes in a flash and another long year of waiting begins to do it all again.

The weekend began with packet pick-up and the expo in Boston.  It was over to the top crowded with the larger field size and so many people who just wanted to be a part of the event to show support.  Besides long waits and a lot of people, it was much the same as prior years.  One of the stand-out memories is the blue and yellow scarves.  The Old South Church right near the finish line asked people all around the country to knit blue and yellow scarves so they could wrap the marathon runners in love and support the weekend of the marathon.  It was so incredible to see so many people with various patterns of blue and yellow wrapped around them.  Each scarf had a little note with who made it and where they were from.  To learn more, check out their website-http://www.oldsouth.org/get-involved/old-south-knitters#scarf-project.


Sunday was Easter and the Dana-Farber pasta party.  The pasta party is a celebration of the completion of the training season, fundraising accomplishments, family and friends, and our patient partners and in-memory families.  If you weren't motivated and excited to be a part of the DFMC team already, a few minutes in the room with 1600 people all brought together by the same goal will do the trick.
We had a special speaker this year...a former runner, Darby Stott.  Darby ran for Dana-Farber a few years back, but stood on the stage now as a patient.  Darby has metastatic breast cancer.  It has moved to different parts of her body, and as she told us, cancer will take her life.  But, that wasn't why she stood before us all.  She was there to say "thank you" for being a part of the team and raising much needed funds.  She asked us to remember that on the course every time we heard "thank you Dana-Farber" the next day. She reminded us that there is so much promise and hope in the pipelines and that the money raised by the team is making the difference.  And that while it isn't going to save her, it has extended her life in a way that wasn't available to her aunt 20 years ago.   So brave.  So strong.  So inspiring and moving.  She changed a lot of people through her story.

Monday started early with a long trip to the starting town of Hopkinton.  The DMFC team meets at a church and spends time together prior to heading to the start. I got to talk with Emilee and Alicia a lot, both of whom I had met briefly but hadn't had much opportunity to get to know.  We take a team picture which every year is highlighted by the "Living Proof" team....survivors and current patients....who are on the team.  I always well up as the rest of the team gives them a well deserved standing ovation as they gather for the picture.  This year, that group included a teammate who was diagnosed with cancer in December after having been accepted on the team and was in the thick of chemotherapy.  She started the race with us and her goal was to reach her family at 10k...which she accomplished!  Another teammate ran the entire distance and got in his car and drove himself to his next treatment at Dana-Farber.  For real?  Yes, for real.  No excuses, my friends.  These people are the real deal.

Brief race recap:  after a long and very, very cold winter, we were blessed with the perfect day for a marathon....IF you were a spectator!  It was warm.  Warmer than most runners would prefer after not seeing temperatures above 40 degrees for months on end.  Our wave started at 11 so beating the heat was not an option.  Those sorts of things are beyond control, so you have to adapt and roll with it.  I started slow and got slower but kept moving.  I was having trouble stomaching any fuel but was trying to drink enough to quench thirst and stay hydrated, which turned out to be unsuccessful as I took a little detour at the end of the run to visit the medical volunteers with Dana-Farber.  I started building in some walks on the first hill at mile 16 and kept it up until mile 25 when I ran the final 1.2 miles.  Not my strongest race, but that isn't what I want to focus on because overall, it was a great day to be out there and here's why:

*A million people were lining the streets of 8 towns soaking up the absolutely beautiful spring day.  They were 10 deep in places so early on the course that it was hard to believe there would be that many people all the way to Boston.  But there was.

*The daffodils planted along the roads from start to finish in honor of the 2013 Boston Marathon tragedy.  There were not a lot of spots along the course that weren't filled with people so it was tough to see them but when there were breaks, the roads were lined with yellow.

*People were holding signs that made me laugh (Chuck Norris never ran a marathon, If marathons were easy they'd be called your mom) and others that made me keep moving (No More Hurting People, Boston Strong, We own the finish line)

*My teammates that I saw on the course that carried me through.  I can't stress enough what a difference they made in the last 6 miles of the run.  I saw Chris and Amy in Newton, and fell into pace with them for a little while.  Chris told me that Meb had won the race which was a bright spot other than the sun!  I lost them when I went to say high to a friend in Newton.  Thanksfully, another teammate, Megan, ran up to me at Heartbreak Hill.  She was having some hip pain and was worried that she might not finish.  We ran the last 5-6 miles together, I think alternately took on the role of cheerleader trying to motivate each other to keep on going.  Her presence got me through the last miles in much better shape than had I been on my own.

*The noise level all the way along the course was deafening.  Once we ran into Kenmore Sq., the final mile was packed with people.  Boylston St. was overwhelming.

*A kind gentleman that had a bowl of pretzels and potato chips for salt.  A few of those chips tasted like heaven!

*There were bands and music all along the course.  In one spot in Framingham, "Sweet Caroline" was playing.  All of the runners around me joined in singing and yelling "So good, so good, so good" while pumping their fists.  Hilarious and uplifting.  And in another spot, someone was playing audio clips from "Forrest Gump."  As I came through I heard, "And when I got there, I thought maybe I'd run to the end of town. And when I got there, I thought maybe I'd just run across Greenbow County. And I figured, since I run this far, maybe I'd just run across the great state of Alabama. And that's what I did. I ran clear across Alabama." Amazing.  That clip stayed in my head for a while on repeat.

*My friends out on the course rocking the Be good. Be strong. shirts.  I saw friends in Framingham, Wellesley, Newton, Brookline, and Boston.  It was unbelievable.  I know there were a bunch of people I missed seeing, but honestly knowing people were out there and looking for them along the road helps so much.  I got hugs and Peanut M&M's and high fives and a lift to keep going.

*All of the people who were riding along with me...those for whom I run.  I thought of them often and when I wanted to sit and call it a day, they brought me back to remember why.

*So many inspiring runners.....seeing Dick and Rick Hoyt in Wellesley as they hammered out that course for the 31st time.  Many blind runners with guides called Team with a Vision.  The team of survivors from 4.15.13.  Disabled runners.

*Amazing volunteer, Leslie, waiting as I came into the DFMC recovery zone.  She knew I had a tough day and was there as she always ready to help out.  I couldn't have been happier to see her smiling face!  There are hundreds of people that volunteer throughout the training season and over marathon weekend, and they are top notch.  Soup, and drinks, and a massage, and support.  Even a Fit Girl coach, Lisa, was around to help out this year.

*Another volunteer extraordinaire and friend, Sandy, waiting for me at Mile 25 and the DFMC
cheering section.  Sandy had taken 3 balloons and surprised me with them to release into the sky to my 3 angels, Molly, Mary & John.  Unbelievable moment.  I could barely hold it together enough to start running again for the the final 1.2 miles.  It meant so much, really beyond words. I had on blue socks in honor and in memory of her son, Matty.  Their family is so incredibly supportive of the DFMC team and Dana-Farber.

*My family and neighbors at mile 17.5.  Making that turn onto Comm Ave in Newton knowing they are waiting is the top moments for me each year.  Without their endless support, encouragement and assistance, I would not be able to do this each year.  

I'm not a professional athlete (shocker).  I run for health and well-being, and in this case, to give back. I was disappointed that I had a tough run, but also very much appreciate that I crossed the finish line that day.  I got dehydrated along the way and Some days are diamonds and some are stones....or some days your legs just feel like stones!  I am grateful that I can run and that I completed the course that day. I'll have another shot at that run.  And I'll keep doing what I can to run cancer into the ground.

Beyond Boston, I am still running a lot.  In fact, I have a year like no other which included this weekend with another marathon in Maine with my Fit Girl co-coaches.  And at the end of the month, I will be running a 50k, my first. In November, I will be running the NYC Marathon.  And as I continue to run, I will keep working towards my goal of $42,000 for cancer research.  Our team has collectively reached a record setting $6.2 million but we are far from finished this season.  We will continue to run in different aspects all over the country, racking up miles as we try to get money into the hands of researchers so people like Darby don't have to so bravely stand before a room full of people and tell them that she will die from cancer, yet with a smile thank us for running, and reminding us of the importance to keep going so others don't have to face the same fate.

You can make a donation online at www.runDFMC.org/2014/jennie

And I can't wrap up without some serious thanks...to everyone who donated, bought a shirt, or

supported me or my family.  To my family-Andrew, Maggie, John, Annie, Mom, Dad, and Katy.  My running partners and friends. To the DFMC staff and volunteers for outstanding support including a post-race email to make sure I was feeling okay after the post-race medical visit.  To the running community who helped us get back to the finish line this year.  Thank you a million times over.  I am floored, once again, by the support.

Thank you.
Thank you.
Thank you.


Be good. Be strong.

4.15.13

I will forever carry the events of last April 15 with me.  It still does not feel real but I know I was standing there and heard the explosions.  I wasn't sure what today would feel like until I woke up this morning but I knew the events of April 15, 2013 would bring so many emotions to the surface.  I think of those whose lives were much more gravely affected than mine all the time.  Sometimes I remember with tears all that was lost, especially for the Richards, Campbell, Lu, and Collier families.  Very often I am filled with pride for the immense strength and determination of the survivors, to see how much they have overcome and how they continue to fight to move forward despite the many obstacle and the physical and emotional pain they feel every day.  Sometimes I am filled with the deepest respect for all of those who responded in the immediate aftermath and in the 365 days that have followed....those who ran towards danger to help, that have provided assistance and care, who made phone calls, and sent letters, and left messages of hope, and planted flowers, and run across the country, and donated to the OneFund, and given medical care, and mental health support, and shared hugs and laughter, and for all that will run in their honor next Monday. 


There are so many qualities that shine more brightly than the hatred that brought the bombings to Boston.  Bravery and courage.  Generosity.  Friendship. Such great strength in the face of tragedy.  This is what I will choose to remember and what we can all take away from last year.  We owe it to all of those affected to remember this day and to pay respect to both the victims and their families   but allow each the freedom and comfort to move forward in the best way for each individual.  To continue to support and provide kindness and assistance to others.   To rally with each other, to stand together, to fight back, to run again.

Young Jane Richards whose brother Martin died in the explosions, and who herself lost one of her legs, said of her older brother, Henry, that what got hurt was his heart.  For most of us who were not physically injured, the same can be said.  What has been hurt is our hearts. 


Be good. Be strong.

The Company We Keep

So, I've had some days that turn into weeks sometimes when I just get in a funk and can't get out of my own head.  What am I doing with myself?  Is it the right thing?  Could it be more? Or less?  Am I expending energy where I should?  Too much where I shouldn't?  Have we made the right choices?  Are there changes to be made?  I sit and stew and over-think and work myself into a bigger headache without really figuring anything out.  I've been that way the past couple of weeks, and the past few days I've been reminded by the "answers" that are all around me.  Those answers are people...and those people are those who inspire and motivate me.

I'm fortunate enough to be involved with some pretty amazing organizations and groups of people.  The one I write about the most is the Dana-Farber Marathon Challenge team, and the past few weeks have not be devoid of inspiring connections.  A couple of weeks ago, the Dana-Farber team ran our final "big" run of the training season.  Most of the team was going 20-22 miles out the Boston Marathon course.  There must have been close to 200 runners gathered together before heading out to run.  Everyone is brought to this team for a reason.  Because themselves or someone they loved has been diagnosed with cancer.  Hilary...18  year survivor of pediatric AML...mother of three beautiful kiddos....full-time research coordinator at Dana-Farber...devoted teammate.  Leslie...volunteer extraordinaire...lost her husband to cancer....always with a smile and kind word.  The Dubuc family....Team Matty in honor of their son/brother....endless determination to fight cancer in Matty's memory and share love and kindness with the entire team....Don't stop believing.  Teresa....current teammate who was diagnosed in December while training...still trying to run through chemo...vows to start the marathon and go as far as she can....supported by her community through a 5k road race.  Runners who lost their best friends as children.  Runners who can't run because of injury who are logging 3 hours in the gym or pool to stay in shape.  Runners who have been running for 15 or 20 years to help end cancer.  Runners who are cancer survivors and haven't been slowed in the least.  They remind me to get out of my funk and keep moving forward.

I've also been lucky enough to being coaching a beginning running program.  I got certified as a running coach last summer and started the program in January and we're still moving.  This group came out twice a week for 10 weeks through one of the coldest winters in years to train.  Minute by minute we built up their running.  Through layers upon layers, frozen precipitation, dark and dreary winter mornings, they showed up each week and reminded me of the joy that running can bring.  How empowering it feels.  How setting a goal and working to reach it is such a reward and gift for ourselves.  They remind me to get out of my funk and keep moving forward.

And then there is the Fit Girls program, a running club for 4th-6th grade girls that meets to train for a 5k but also incorporates reading and community service.  It's not competitive, which is a welcome change from many youth sports these days, and the mission is to help girls lead healthy lives through running, ready and giving back to the community.  We are starting our fifth season and each has been full of so many rewards.  Seeing 100+ girls cross the finish line with smiles on their faces....hearing the pride as they tell how many laps or how many minutes they've run....watching them support and cheer for each other with no concern with winning....seeing them achieve their very own personal goals.  Additionally, I get to stand next to 5 other ladies each week who emanate strength and who make me laugh and inspire me to be better.  I am planning to cross the finish line of the Maine Coast Marathon along side these women as we strive for that collective goal we've set together.  They all remind me to get out of my funk and keep moving forward.

And it goes without saying that our friends and family don't provide the same.  If I've learned nothing else over the past five years, I know the value of surrounding yourself with those who make you a better person.  I've been witness to some real ugly in people, and who has time for that.  I mean, really.  I don't want to be around anyone who puts me in a funk (I can't escape myself, mind you, and I am usually the one who puts myself there) and sets me back. Now, I'm no Pollyanna and I can be a ginormous pain in the ass.  And there are times when I am probably the cause of someone's bad day (or week), but I work for the opposite.  But when the world gets spinning too fast and my brain doesn't slow down, instead of looking for the big answer, I need to just take a deep breath and look around.  Because I've made some good decisions that have led me to the company I keep. And for that, I am grateful.

And I am incredibly grateful for the many people who make up the ginormous team each year that supports the DFMC.  I run, but it is through the kindness and dedication and generosity of many, many people that we have together raised over $200,000 for innovative cancer research in the past 6 years.  Just incredible.  I am almost to my goal of $35,000 for this season, and in all honestly, would gladly sail by!  My thanks to all of you have supported the Barr Program.  It's making a difference.

Be good.  Be strong.